In The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and land mines associated with dating in the twenty-first century. Best of all, he offers the most practical and uncensored advice you will ever hear on this topic.
Not for the faint of heart, The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley challenges single Christ followers to step up and set a new standard for this generation!
Look around you. Rules are everywhere. And, generally, rules are set up to protect, to guide, and to help. It’s no different for relationships. There are rules. Lots of them. But what if the rules are wrong? What if the rules are misleading? What if the rules are actually dangerous? In The New Rules For Love, Sex & Dating, Andy Stanley tells us why these new rules don’t work, while telling us about the rules that do.
Becoming the person who the person you are looking for is looking for is hard. But it is not as hard as getting married and being unprepared. Think about a couple of things you can do this week to become that person—the right person.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking . . . 1 Corinthians 13:4–5
Are women a commodity? Our culture often expresses that viewpoint. In this week’s message, Andy reveals the danger of this mindset and challenges men to embrace a biblical view of the women in their lives.
Jesus’ call to treat women with esteem and honor can seem old fashioned or counterintuitive. However, if we want our dating and marriage relationships to thrive, it’s a truth we can’t ignore. What is at least one thing you can do this week to honor the women in your life?
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. I Peter 3:7
Culture convinces us - and sometimes we convince ourselves - that sex is only physical. But if that is true, why is the pain of sexual sin so deep? Because sex is not just physical. It was designed by God to be so much more. In this message, Andy addresses common myths about sex outside of marriage and has two specific challenges going forward.
Exclusivity is the key to great romance in marriage, but to get it requires setting a personal standard in advance. Even though making choices that honor God with your body might seem like a sacrifice now, it will open the door for marital intimacy later. What decisions can you make today in order to invest in your marriage for tomorrow?
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18
You can say, “I do.” But can you follow through? A promise— even a promise as big as a wedding vow— doesn’t mean anything without preparation to back it up. In this message, Andy has a “to do” list that will prepare you to one day say “I do” and mean it.
Marriage was not designed to fix things. In fact, oftentimes the bad things only get magnified in marriage. Since that is the case, why not start becoming the person your spouse needs now? Your preparation now is worth way more than your commitment later on. With that in mind, choose one area Andy mentioned (debt, unresolved past, bad habits, dress, boundaries) and create a goal. Then list the necessary short-term steps that will set you on a path toward becoming the person that the person you are looking for is looking for.
The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways . . . Proverbs 14:8