Let the Games Begin, Part 1: The Change Game by Clay Scroggins
We all love games, but playing games in relationships is dangerous. Approaching relationships as though someone has to win and someone has to lose is a bad idea. One game we tend to play in our relationships is The Change Game. There’s nothing more toxic to a relationship than secretly trying to change the other person. It feels awful. It doesn’t work. And it will eventually destroy the relationship. The good news is there’s a better way.
If God has accepted you, why not offer that kind of acceptance to others? What would it look like if you chose to treat others the way God has treated you? Don’t try to change others. Love them. Change happens when you quit trying to make others like you.
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.
Let the Games Begin, Part 2: The Blame Game by Darren Youngstrom
“Don’t hate the player. Hate the game.” We’re all players in the game of relationships. But when we play games in relationships, everyone loses. One of the most dangerous games we play is The Blame Game. When we’re guilty, it’s tempting to blame others for our choices. But putting the blame on others is toxic to our relationships. The good news is there’s a better way.
The Blame Game keeps you from the relationships you could have. The Blame Game keeps you from being the person you could be. It stunts you. It prevents you from improving yourself and improving your relationships because when you blame, you stay the same. If there’s someone else to blame, there’s nothing for you to work on. So, it’s time for you to quit The Blame Game. Choose to forgive others as God forgave you.
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you have a grievance against someone. Forgive as the LORD forgave you.
Let the Games Begin, Part 3: The Mind Game by Clay Scroggins
Do you remember the board game slogan, “You learn about life when you play The Game of Life”? It’s true. We do learn about life when we play games. But too often, the lessons we learn aren’t healthy ones . . . especially when we play The Mind Game. Relationships built on The Mind Game can’t survive. The good news is there’s a better way.
Love is the antidote to The Mind Game. Love gives the benefit of the doubt. Love assigns the best motives. Love is innocent until proven guilty. Love does not suspect another unjustly. Love can help you choose to find the most generous explanation for each other’s behavior and believe it.
For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:12–13