Have you ever had a great relationship go bad or a bad relationship that became even worse? What if there was a way to make all your relationships get better in just a few simple steps?
In this 4-part study, Clay Scroggins suggests a secret to finding peace about difficult relationships even when we can’t find peace in those relationships. #BadBloodSeries DOWNLOAD ONLY
Part 1 - The Empathy Lens (Clay Scroggins)
Have you ever had a great relationship go bad or a bad relationship that got even worse? What if there was a way to make all your relationships better in just a few simple steps?
Check out this secret to finding peace about a difficult relationship even when you can't find peace in the relationship. Romans 12:18
Part 2 - Holding On (Clay Scroggins)
What do you do when you have bad blood with someone who owes you something? Bad blood is costly and complicated. It costs you peace and complicates your other relationships. If you don’t find peace in that “bad blood” relationship, your other relationships will suffer. The good news is that you can have peace about the relationship even without peace in the relationship.
Who do you need to forgive? Who do you need to set free from his or her debt to you? Who are you asking to pay a ransom for what someone else took from you? You can let go or you can let it hold you. Let God hold what’s holding you. Stop trying to make others pay what they owe you. Work to forgive. Romans 12:17-19
Part 3 - A Conversation Or A Confrontation (Clay Scroggins)
When there’s bad blood in a relationship, the easiest thing to do is to let resentment and bitterness grow without addressing the issue. That’s the path of least resistance. It doesn’t make the conflict go away, but it avoids the relational mess of having to deal with the other person.
Jesus calls his followers to a higher standard. He says that if we have a problem with another person, we should go and have a conversation with him or her. But why should you go, when should you go, and how should you go?
If you have bad blood, don’t wait another minute. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that God is okay with your bad blood. He wants you to do all you can do to bring peace. Before making things right with God, make things right with others. Making peace with others clears the path to making peace with God. Imagine how God feels about that. Romans 12:18; Matthew 18:15; Matthew 5:23-24
Part 4 - Shaking the Dust Off (Clay Scroggins)
The first step to finding peace in a relationship is to repent if you’ve done wrong or to forgive if you’ve been wronged. But no matter how badly you want peace, there are some relationships that may never be fully restored. What do you do to find peace about a relationship when you can’t find peace in the relationship?
God holds us responsible for helping to carry others’ burdens. He doesn’t hold us responsible for carrying others’ loads. When we carry another person’s load, we rob that person of experiencing the outcomes of his or her decisions. Set boundaries in your relationships. Be accountable to someone. Galatians 6:2-5